Forgiveness 3

So when exactly does one seek forgiveness? When you 'get caught'? When somebody is noticeably hurt or affected? When you are told to? While all of these are correct, true forgiveness certainly goes far beyond.

When we tell our children about being obedient, we stress the three-fold definition of that characteristic that we have held for years. True obedience is when something is done (or in some cases NOT done) completely, right away, and without complaint.

Obedience is not something that is done half way or just enough to escape negative notice. Taking the trash out is making sure it is in the trash bin outside with a new bag as a replacement. Just making the appearance and smell of the source leave the kitchen does not suffice.

Also, it is not something that is done 'when you have the chance' or merely 'at your convenience' (unless a special request to that end has been made and granted). It is done right away, showing that it is understood that it is more important than my agenda.

Finally, true obedience is done with a happy heart and something close to a happy face. Muttering under one's breath does not answer the call to obey biblically. Just ask any number of Israelites who dutifully followed Moses with their feet alone.

So with these helpful aspects in mind, it would appear to me that forgiveness is necessary when any of these areas are lacking. Doing what your spouse has asked, but with a complaining spirit? Start fessin' up. Have you affirmed that something will be done and tended to, and then put it down on the list of things to do after all of YOUR agenda items are complete? You may need to consider who exactly is the center of that equation. Have you in fact started the process and are safe from accusatory remarks, but in your heart and mind have left much undone? Complete the job with an eye to seeking forgiveness along the way.

Keeping this simple definition of true obedience in our view will remind us of how much forgiveness we are in need of.